This could get bloody with all the deep wounds being opened.
When Darrel & I got married, I asked Chris & Peter, individually, if they wanted to participate in the wedding. Each responded with "I want to give you to Darrel". Their love for him confuses him some days because he's not perfect.
I tried to tell him that's OK because if he was perfect then it is attainable and I have to be perfect too. Besides that, the only perfect person was crucified so it is probably not a good idea anyway (with apologies to those who are offended).
As one of those who found the right person, I sometimes feel sorry for those who aren't us.
Joy
Edit: Deep open wounds here were just reopened by family. Can't share that part right now.