[theoddz]

There are lesbians in this world who strongly identify with and prefer the company of other lesbians. I don't pretend to understand the dynamics of the various relationship roles and situations, so I can't say why your friends were so attached to the lesbian community and perhaps set their personal identities by. I've never been that way, myself. I'm one of those so-called "folks" you were talking about and hardly the "activist" sort. For lack of a better word, I guess some people need a "mantra"/banner/lable to gather under, though, I am not one of them.

For me, my sexual orientation has never been what has defined me. I've tried to live my life as a decent PERSON first and foremost. Instead of marching in parades, waving flags and going to rallies, I've been getting an education, honorably serving my country, holding down a decent job where I help others, being a loyal and devoted friend and lover to my partner, and being a good daughter to my loving parents and siblings. This is what defines me, I think. I would like to think that I live a respectable life and all of my friends tell me that I have their respect and admiration for all that I have managed to accomplish, given the fact that my health is very fragile.

I did get a chuckle out of what you said about your friends seemingly being "lesbians first, and then, maybe folks". I've met people like that, not just when it came to being gay/lesbian, but other groups, too.

You're right, that does get tiresome!! eh ehehehe

Peace.