I'm sorry for what happened to you but Post 379 in Yakima was never like that.
Go here (News & Information/VFW timeline)
http://www.vfw.org/index.cfm?fa=news.leveld&did=860
click on interactive timeline and click on (decade) 1960.
There is a picture of 2 VFW members holding a VFW sign saying We Support Our Boys in Vietnam. This was done for Veterans Day 1965. Our friends and neighbors did not wait for the authorization to be given to support our troops.
Membership elegibility is determined by Congress, not by the VFW.
I won't go into all that the membership of Post 379 does because they don't need defending. This action fits into the way they have always been. That is why we are members.
Joy & Darrel