Morning Coffee! ;)

[philly]

It was good chatting with you Bones! Rest well, my friend.

[the humper]

On about 38 or 9, you made reference to the recon/scouts might come get you and around the house wasn't too much cover!!!!! What the hell did you do with your entrenching tool!!!!!!!!!!!
SF
NC

[wrbones]

..actually, I was thinkin' of a trap door inna floor and slippin' out the back so I could do some snoopin' and poopin'.

I've got a shovel and I HAVE been thinkin' bout the best place to put a fightin' hole or two...

[Mom]

Dear Warbones and Philliy,

Thanks. Up late because I couldn't sleep and then my husband got up and kept me company until I got sleepy.

Helps reading your conversation after reading another wanna be post.....starts WARS actually, especially when facts are ignored and pure opinion is used.....I sometimes wonder if the mean just con others into attacking someone with them (mobs are safer I presume) or if it's part of their (the people conned into it) nature as well.....

I ripped one just a few minutes ago.....same idea when a women IN UNIFORM is called a wanna be when serving her country....blind sadistic and harmful to the woman AND THE SERVICES.....as a result I one of if not the first married women to join the armed services has a clear and irrefutable claim....for disability....dead bodies are hard to lose. They tried though. ONLY my medical records (one months worth) are missing.... they can't deny a letter from a Dr (Airforce Major) sent via channels rather then directly to me (VIA DOD as well) a few week afterward....ditto a death certificate filed in the State record office a few days afterward (signed by said Major)....plus photo's etc.

Sorry to dump it on you but RAGE is about all that wanna be stuff engenders in me and I'd say most victims of internet assualt by wanna be important people. who walk around wanting to ....well it's considered a no no and tends to lead to PTSD in plain Anxiety types....not sure but I believe it's classified as torture...I could look it up but, don't need to with decent people they know it's sick by it's stench alone.

[wrbones]

Originally posted by Mom Dear Warbones and Philliy,

Thanks. Up late because I couldn't sleep and then my husband got up and kept me company until I got sleepy.

Helps reading your conversation after reading another wanna be post.....

Sorry to dump it on you but RAGE is about all that wanna be stuff engenders in me and I'd say most victims of internet assualt by wanna be important people. who walk around wanting to ....well it's considered a no no and tends to lead to PTSD in plain Anxiety types....not sure but I believe it's classified as torture...I could look it up but, don't need to with decent people they know it's sick by it's stench alone.

I'm glad to be of some little service, dear.

Take a deep breath and start over if ya wanta. I missed the gist of what was a goin' on there!

Ya got inna flamewar did ya?

Don't let it get to ya. Stick to the facts and use a bit of rhetoric and logic and you'll come out on top every time.

[Mom]

Afraid so. They started with the usual and did in fact shall we say question my parentage in an E-mail....so I posted a few hundred pages of ...well, actually it was the index. And I believe at the time I only had 35-40 thousand people in my pedigree. Can't help it if my parents in effect helped me out a bit by being of Royal decent. Also helps to be telling the truth. Can't refute it now. Which is why my family is upset but very aware they convicted themsevles rather then did anything to me other then scaring me a bit. A member of my family did point out I could nail them if they tried to harm me. I'd actually forgotten in a sence that I had taken down and armed man armed with nothing myself but my hands. And can hit the broadside of a barn if it comes to that. Provided I'm waering my glasses. Old age and a stroke took a lot away but, I'm working on it...can pull a 20lb bow now. Used to pull much more....firearms don't apeal to me (my daughter likes them considering her profession) even though I can shot straight so to speak. So no real problem if they come to my home again....I'm not sure why they left without doing anything more then threatening me....I'm not terribly intimdating. Not in my opinion. My friend the Marine said I scare the hell out of people sometimes. Can't imagine why at all.

[wrbones]

'Mornin' folks! How the hell are ya this mornin' anyway! Coffee's on and it's hot and it's good! Better grab yerslf a cup before it's gone! Paper'll be along directly, I reckon!

Well, I was a visitin' with some folks the last couple days, and they gave me quite a lot to think about. Some of 'em was a braggin' on mornin' coffee again, but I ain't gonna tell ya what they said. Hell, I know some folks like a visitin' with me over coffee inna mornin'. I still ain't quite figgered out why, but I'm a little slow onna uptake, sometimes. I mean...I really can't figger why most folks ain't a visitin' this way alla time, myself. I'm kinda baffled over that one...

Anyway, I had someone ask me about that fallin' in love and a lovin' sort of thing again, so I reckon I'll visit over that some. Like I've said about a lot of things, I don't know that I have it down in stone, but I might have an idea or two on the topic. Any feller says he's got anything all sorted out, you might wanta look at him funny. He might not know as much as he figgers about much of anything. Love bein' one of them topics I'm referrin' to. Lots a goin' on with that one. Books and books and more books have been written about the subject. What subject? Love, dammit. Wake up and pay attention! I'm a talkin' here! Jeez. drink some coffee would ya! Get yer eyes open!

I was talkin' about that agape love awhile back. I know, I still can't figger how to put the little thingy above the 'e'. Cut me a huss, would ya? I got other things to figger on than some thingy to put on a 'e' when I'm a visitin'. Now where the hell was I? Oh, love.

Agape love is that unconditional stuff. Ya ain't gotta work for it, ya ain't got make folks work for. Ya just kinda accept 'em them the way they is, and they accept you the way you is. It's bit more than that, but that's about the essence of that one. All love probably oughta start there. Unconditional acceptance. No accusations, no pain or expectations.

Now in the Book, they got about three more kinds, but I ain't a gonna look 'em up there right now. I figger I might just get it right without all that Greek stuff if I'm lucky. Well, one more, mebbe. One they call 'eros', I think it is. Physical love. Hormones. Ayup. Sex. The here today, gone tomorrow, kinda love.

I might just kinda concentrate on those two, mebbe. Well, ok, ok. I'll tell ya what one of the other two are called, then. Another one they call 'phileo. Kinda like sayin' ya like that person, or ya love that couch, mebbe even like sayin' that other feller is yer friend. I reckon the closest I can get to that is the word, 'philedelphia' or mebbe 'philanthropia' or some such. Means ya care fer folks, but it might not mean too much if ya ain't doin' it fer the right reasons. If ya takin' care of folks and a doin' for 'em just so you can show off, mebbe ya missed the point of those two.

Ok, now that we got that crap outta the way, mebbe I can tell ya what I really think! Ok, what do I really think...

...dang it, don't rush me. I'm tryin' to this the twenty five word or less equivalent of sayin' somethin' men have spent billions of words and several centuries a tryin' to sort out! Expect me to give ya all the answers just a visitin' over coffee inna mornin'! Some things ya gotta learn fer yerself, don't ya know!

Some folks stop by just to see what kinda train wreck I got goin' THIS time. This just might be the big one!

Love works kinda different fer men and fer women, I figger. One of those hard wired things. Men love as a result of a decision if they're a doin' things right to start with. Women love as a kinda motherly, nurturin' kinda love, plus all the romancin' they like. Affection might be a better way to put it. Thing is, most folks do their lovin' with their hormones. Hormones act as a kinda drug. Well, what happens when the drugs wear off? What ya got then? Nuthin but a hangover...and yer with someone ya don't really like to begin with, let alone love.

Love, in marriage, is when two folks become one. One is pretty much kinda lost without the other. Bein' separated means that they are each kinda lost without their other half...and 'other half' is sayin' the truth. It'll be like havin' the whole of you cut in half and separated, mind, body and soul. Now this is quite aside from those relationships that are unhealthy in the folks' need for one another. I ain't a talkin' about unhealthy lovin' at all. I'm a talkin' about somethin' that has nuthin' but pure beauty in it. I'm talkin' about folks fittin' together so well that they compliment each other fully in all of their skills and abilities and likes and dislikes...and they honestly, truly, love each other....and that love comes from a decision to love each other. All things begin with a decision. A decision not based on "Hail good fellow, well met." kinda phileo, nor on how good ya are in bed with each other, but on all three together and then more. To me, agape love is the first of these in importance and impact. A decision to love, unconditionally, no matter what.

Don't figger on him or her bein' a nice person reason enough to call it true love, nor even bein' good in bed, nor even how much yer toes tingle when ya kiss each other. Love is one of those decisions that are a cross roads in life. Ya best do yer research and make damn sure ya know what yer a gettin' into. One way or the other, right or wrong, life will never be the same afterwards.

I can back most of that up pretty well, not to mention I can show ya inna Book how it all comes together and makes sense, too. It just takes more time than we got this mornin'!

Make sure ya warm up yer coffee, folks! It's a good! It's a new opportunity! We got another chance to get 'er right! Make sure ya take advantage of it!

[philly]

Bones,

Very nice indeed. Cheers to you!

[philly]

Bones,

I hope you don't my sharing this in your thread. I thought it was such a nice piece.

Sand & Stone

A story tells that two friends were walking through the desert. During some point of the journey they had an argument, and one
friend slapped the other one in the face.

The one who got slapped was hurt,
but without saying anything, wrote in the sand:

TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SLAPPED ME IN THE FACE.

They kept on walking until they found an oasis, where they decided to take a bath.

The one who had been slapped got stuck in the mire and started drowning, but the friend saved him.

After he recovered from the near drowning, he wrote on a stone:

TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SAVED MY LIFE.

The friend who had slapped and saved his best friend asked him, "After I hurt you, you wrote in the sand and now, you write on a stone, why?"

The other friend replied, "When someone hurts us we should write it down in sand where winds of forgiveness can erase it away.

But, when someone does something good for us, we must engrave it in stone where no wind can ever erase it.

[MORTARDUDE]

Bones :

Just catching up on some of your posts. I worked rotating shifts ....days, swings, mids ( and worked rotating weekends )..changing every 2 weeks for 15 years. When I was in my 20s and early 30s I could handle it OK. As I got older it was just plain torture and caused lots of sleep deprivation. Not to mention the fact that I spent the equivalent of 5 years away from my family on evening shift. The only reason we stopped was because our union filed a mass grievance. We had enough folks who wanted to work each shift permanently so that everything worked out just fine. Management. Never have had anything good to say about it. Still don't..

As for depression, I found a new book that is interesting to say the least. I don't have it with me today ( will post name tomorrow ), but here is the gist of it. The doctors who wrote it, use brain scans to see what is going on when depression, violence, paranoia, obssessive compulsive disorder, anxiety attacks, and the like are involved. It shows, beyond a doubt, what mental processes, or lack of same, are involved with these illnesses. I have been fighting depression since 1987. I have been called weak, lazy, stupid, and lots of other things. It is evident to me that I inherited this affliction from my father's side of the family.
If you know someone who is suffering from any of these, encourage them to get into talking therapy and take medication, if appropriate. The very worst thing you can do is leave them alone and let them dwell in their own personal mental hell. Been there. Done that. No thanks.

Keep up the good work Bones !!

Larry